Congratulations on your engagement! You’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and they feel the same way about you! The hardest part of this process is over! Now for the easy task: asking one of your friends/family members to be your maid/matron/man of honor.
Obviously, you could always just text them (“yo, u wanna be my made of honor lol lemme know”), email them (Subject line: Maid of Honor Inquiry), or yell at them from a moving car when you see them walking down the sidewalk (“HEY DO YOU WANNA BE MY MAID OF— *words lost to the wind*”)
OR you could also do something with a little more pizzazz. Here are five fun ways to ask!
Present a Present – Give ‘em a little gift. Some jewelry or some wine or some other trinket they’d enjoy. Maybe something with their name or “maid of honor” or “bride’s bestie” on it. Think of it as a friend proposal.
Get down on one knee, pull out a bottle of wine, and ask that classic important question: “Do you want to be a significant member of my wedding party, with responsibilities including but not limited to helping me coordinate with vendors, mailing invitations, putting together a menu, and helping me pick out a dress, etc.?”
Arrangements, Edible and/or Floral – Maybe your intended MOH lives in another town and you won’t be able to ask in-person. Hire a flower/edible arrangements delivery service to bring a bouquet to her work or home with a card. She gets a cool treat; you get a maid of honor; everyone wins! Just sit back and wait for the excited follow-up phone call!
Fortune Cookies – Imagine this. You invite her over for Chinese food. She cracks open her fortune cookie and reads: “Will you be my maid of honor?”
“Hey look at this, this is weird,” she says. “Someone at the fortune cookie factory made a weird joke.”
“No, that’s me, silly. I got that fortune cookie custom made!”
“Oh! Yes of course I’ll do it!”
You hug each other and rejoice. Then you open your own fortune cookie. It says: “She will be an excellent maid of honor.”
“OMG!” you shout. “Good one! How did you pull this off?”
“What are you talking about?” your maid of honor asks. “I didn’t make that fortune cookie. That came from the restaurant.” Silence falls over the room.
Your fortune cookie was indeed actually from the fortune cookie factory. Life is very mysterious. You and your MOH are left puzzled and shaken by what has transpired here today. What a fun story to tell at the reception!
Balloons! – Bring her a beautiful balloon! Have her pop it open. Inside, you’ve placed an exquisitely designed and embossed card, asking her to be your MOH. (Note: not recommended for people with a fear of loud noises. Or balloons, or cards, or weddings.)
If you wanna get crazy with it, bring her a bushel of balloons, each containing a slip of paper with a single word on it: “Will” “you” “be” “my” “maid” “of” “honor” “?” Have her pop them all and piece it together. It’s not everyday you can act like the Riddler, so have some fun with this! Her face lighting up as she gradually realizes what you’re asking will be something to see!
Maid of Honor Mani/Pedi – Take her on a spa day and have the manicurist/pedicurist surreptitiously write “MOH?” on her nails. Distract her through conversation. Make sure the nail technician doesn’t accidentally write it upside down, though. Otherwise your best friend will take a look at her hands/feet and say, “HOW? What does HOW stand for?” If this happens, don’t miss a beat. Come back with, “It stands for, uh, HOW about you be my maid of honor?”
These are just a few of the creative ways you can snag your maid of honor. Though if all else fails, you can always spray paint the question onto her garage door. She’ll looooove that!